The problem starts when..
1) People start giving their interpretations and meanings to your actions.
Imagine i've been a very hardworking girl all of term time and I decide to skip sch one fine day, you say i'm slackkk. I say I just needed a break. Weird example, I know. But why dont u make things a whole lot easier for you and me by just asking me what I was thinking?
2) People do weird things like beating around the bush to try get their point across.
In front of you, all you hear is "hey it's okie.. doesn't matter" yet whatever they do, seems to echo something like "HELLO IT'S TOTALLY NOT OKIE!!!" I am being quite a hypocrite. I just said it's better not to give your intepretations to people's actions. But that brings me to my next pt that the problem begins when
3)People prefer the 'nice' you to the real you. People can't deal with confrontations. Regarding the beating around the bush matter I discussed briefly above, if you were to approach the person involved and ask/confront them if they're trying to get a point across at all, at least 2 reactions are possible. One, they turn the story 360 degrees around. All in a matter of 10 minutes, you watched a masala tamil movie already. They were not referring to you at all! You read it all wrong. (yeah right.) Two, they say you're aggressive. They say you're argumentative. They say u aren't nice. I say nice is not me. Well not all the time. If you aren't close to me, I would tell you it's ok. And chances are I really mean it. But if we happen to be close, you probably would know i'm not happy. Well I would tell you. Not to say that I would use that incident to sabotage our friendship. I actually think being truthful can pave way for a more rewarding friendship. Well I just believe in being honest. Deal with it. Actually,go ahead and feel flattered that you're so important to me. Caz there's no othet reason why I feel the need to be true to you :)
So it's simple. Communication is key. You're unhappy with me, we can talk things out. They say time is precious. Let me be nice to you and tell you not to waste precious seconds of your life beating around the bush. Being direct may not always be the best way out. But add some tact. It may just work.
