Exams! I feel so unprepared. Well nothing new there, owing to my forever-last-min style. But hey, I dunno if it's actually possible to ever feel prepared for exams. (at the uni level at least.) there's always that little bit that you aren't clear about...
This sem has been trying in many ways ; eye-opening in many others. Too many realisations, too may decisions to make, too many uncertainties, too many reflections.. It has truly been a challenging one.
Despite it all, I'm surprised I'm taking this pretty cool. No breaking down, no terrible mood swings, no outbursts of temper.
That's probably because I'm surrounded by great people. You get so paranoid sometimes with so much that you gotta do, you just have no time for the usual gathering. This is where the ppl you love impress you by being totally understanding when you can't afford to go on that girl's night out or that dinner date. A big THANK-YOU to you! I like it that you guys are so flexible and that you don't work on the "you give me x hours, therefore I give you back x hours" premise. sure, I end up feeling guilty that I'm not giving you as much as you are giving me. But trust me, my respect and admiration for you has risen quite a few notches and I know for a fact I will make it up to you in my own way..
And now, all I'm looking forward to is...
nah not the start/end of exams! :p
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Honestly..
The problem starts when..
1) People start giving their interpretations and meanings to your actions.
Imagine i've been a very hardworking girl all of term time and I decide to skip sch one fine day, you say i'm slackkk. I say I just needed a break. Weird example, I know. But why dont u make things a whole lot easier for you and me by just asking me what I was thinking?
2) People do weird things like beating around the bush to try get their point across.
In front of you, all you hear is "hey it's okie.. doesn't matter" yet whatever they do, seems to echo something like "HELLO IT'S TOTALLY NOT OKIE!!!" I am being quite a hypocrite. I just said it's better not to give your intepretations to people's actions. But that brings me to my next pt that the problem begins when
3)People prefer the 'nice' you to the real you. People can't deal with confrontations. Regarding the beating around the bush matter I discussed briefly above, if you were to approach the person involved and ask/confront them if they're trying to get a point across at all, at least 2 reactions are possible. One, they turn the story 360 degrees around. All in a matter of 10 minutes, you watched a masala tamil movie already. They were not referring to you at all! You read it all wrong. (yeah right.) Two, they say you're aggressive. They say you're argumentative. They say u aren't nice. I say nice is not me. Well not all the time. If you aren't close to me, I would tell you it's ok. And chances are I really mean it. But if we happen to be close, you probably would know i'm not happy. Well I would tell you. Not to say that I would use that incident to sabotage our friendship. I actually think being truthful can pave way for a more rewarding friendship. Well I just believe in being honest. Deal with it. Actually,go ahead and feel flattered that you're so important to me. Caz there's no othet reason why I feel the need to be true to you :)
So it's simple. Communication is key. You're unhappy with me, we can talk things out. They say time is precious. Let me be nice to you and tell you not to waste precious seconds of your life beating around the bush. Being direct may not always be the best way out. But add some tact. It may just work.
1) People start giving their interpretations and meanings to your actions.
Imagine i've been a very hardworking girl all of term time and I decide to skip sch one fine day, you say i'm slackkk. I say I just needed a break. Weird example, I know. But why dont u make things a whole lot easier for you and me by just asking me what I was thinking?
2) People do weird things like beating around the bush to try get their point across.
In front of you, all you hear is "hey it's okie.. doesn't matter" yet whatever they do, seems to echo something like "HELLO IT'S TOTALLY NOT OKIE!!!" I am being quite a hypocrite. I just said it's better not to give your intepretations to people's actions. But that brings me to my next pt that the problem begins when
3)People prefer the 'nice' you to the real you. People can't deal with confrontations. Regarding the beating around the bush matter I discussed briefly above, if you were to approach the person involved and ask/confront them if they're trying to get a point across at all, at least 2 reactions are possible. One, they turn the story 360 degrees around. All in a matter of 10 minutes, you watched a masala tamil movie already. They were not referring to you at all! You read it all wrong. (yeah right.) Two, they say you're aggressive. They say you're argumentative. They say u aren't nice. I say nice is not me. Well not all the time. If you aren't close to me, I would tell you it's ok. And chances are I really mean it. But if we happen to be close, you probably would know i'm not happy. Well I would tell you. Not to say that I would use that incident to sabotage our friendship. I actually think being truthful can pave way for a more rewarding friendship. Well I just believe in being honest. Deal with it. Actually,go ahead and feel flattered that you're so important to me. Caz there's no othet reason why I feel the need to be true to you :)
So it's simple. Communication is key. You're unhappy with me, we can talk things out. They say time is precious. Let me be nice to you and tell you not to waste precious seconds of your life beating around the bush. Being direct may not always be the best way out. But add some tact. It may just work.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Sugan + Naf + Nas = TOTAL FUN!
I loved yesterday! Awesome. At a time when i totally needed a break. Looking forward to the next one! =)And Sugan, i will make it up to you for being such a lazybum, promise! haha
Saturday, August 28, 2010
My blog's still alive!
Thought tt shoutout was necessary. Haven had the inspiration to blog lately. And yes, I'm not gonna make a serious effort to sound coherent as far as this post is concerned. Jus anything n everything tt comes to my mind.
Ramadhan's here n it's been a great 17 days. Looking fwd to the next 13. Among all the other things, this is the month i feel like singing aloud the praises of this miracle called H2O. Plain water is the best water! (potential fb status update!)
This sem is by Comparison the most demanding/challenging one. I'm drowning in the amount of work tt needs to be done. Doesn't help tt none of the lecturers provide notes. I'm doing arabic as well. Very cool if not for the fact tt it takes up 6 hours of my time every week. Bring it on I say. I will pull through insha allah.
I suddenly am very full of regrets. I used to look forward to being in yr 3 so i can get out of uni. Now i'm not sure. I wish i was a freshie all over again. It sucks to look baq now. There's sooooo much i cud haf done tt i didn't. If u're remotely thinking of telling me I shudn be regretting n there's no pt, save yourself. there truly is a pt regretting. I digress. Coming baq To what I was saying, i am having mixed feeling abt my last yr in NUS. Funny but i'm not exactly excited to get out of here. I guess we get too comfortable where we are. I guess sumtimes we dun wanna grow up. I guess.. I kinda like NUS. Yes i do. I'm not surprised tt u're surprised i'm saying this. I'm surprised myself!
That a lecturer could ignite within me a true passion in my field of study after 2 years of me studying it rather aimlessly, is amazing. That a lecturer sumhw makes me reflect abt hw i've spent my 2 years in uni critically is inspiring. I am not sure how to pen down what i'm thinking aptly, but i honestly admire n m inspired by you.
I watched Madrasapattinam recently. The trailers made me expect sth close to a historical acct of india's route to independance. But i was so wrong. It's abt a love story set in india during the time it was gonna gain independance. I'm not here to do a movie review of madrasapattinam but if u've yet to watch it, it wud suffice to say that it wud be worth every min of your time. So far, the best movie of 2010 for me.
And Gv prakash's music.. Awesome! I think i am already becoming his fan. As if repeating his songs on my ipod prove my loyalty to him, i've been listening to pookal pookum again and again and again and again. I loveee the lyrics too.
"Vaalindri Porindri Valikkindra yuttam indri, ithu yenna ivan anbu yennai velluthae?"
Beautiful.
Tt's all for now. :)
Ramadhan's here n it's been a great 17 days. Looking fwd to the next 13. Among all the other things, this is the month i feel like singing aloud the praises of this miracle called H2O. Plain water is the best water! (potential fb status update!)
This sem is by Comparison the most demanding/challenging one. I'm drowning in the amount of work tt needs to be done. Doesn't help tt none of the lecturers provide notes. I'm doing arabic as well. Very cool if not for the fact tt it takes up 6 hours of my time every week. Bring it on I say. I will pull through insha allah.
I suddenly am very full of regrets. I used to look forward to being in yr 3 so i can get out of uni. Now i'm not sure. I wish i was a freshie all over again. It sucks to look baq now. There's sooooo much i cud haf done tt i didn't. If u're remotely thinking of telling me I shudn be regretting n there's no pt, save yourself. there truly is a pt regretting. I digress. Coming baq To what I was saying, i am having mixed feeling abt my last yr in NUS. Funny but i'm not exactly excited to get out of here. I guess we get too comfortable where we are. I guess sumtimes we dun wanna grow up. I guess.. I kinda like NUS. Yes i do. I'm not surprised tt u're surprised i'm saying this. I'm surprised myself!
That a lecturer could ignite within me a true passion in my field of study after 2 years of me studying it rather aimlessly, is amazing. That a lecturer sumhw makes me reflect abt hw i've spent my 2 years in uni critically is inspiring. I am not sure how to pen down what i'm thinking aptly, but i honestly admire n m inspired by you.
I watched Madrasapattinam recently. The trailers made me expect sth close to a historical acct of india's route to independance. But i was so wrong. It's abt a love story set in india during the time it was gonna gain independance. I'm not here to do a movie review of madrasapattinam but if u've yet to watch it, it wud suffice to say that it wud be worth every min of your time. So far, the best movie of 2010 for me.
And Gv prakash's music.. Awesome! I think i am already becoming his fan. As if repeating his songs on my ipod prove my loyalty to him, i've been listening to pookal pookum again and again and again and again. I loveee the lyrics too.
"Vaalindri Porindri Valikkindra yuttam indri, ithu yenna ivan anbu yennai velluthae?"
Beautiful.
Tt's all for now. :)
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Sorry, I'm late!
I'm sure you guys have had your share of 'late' friends and probably haven't had great experiences with these 'late' people. Or who knows? Maybe you're the Mr/Miss Late yourself! (you culprit!)
I won't pretend that I've never ever been late before. I have, on many occasions. I won't pretend I've never ever pressed the snooze button on my phone a countless times and then slept off and eventually woke up to realise i've overslept. I admit, it has happened to me too. The key thing here is, it happens but once in a blue moon. Plus, if I'm late, I'm not dangerously late. Probably 5-10 mins. On time is ideal. But 5, 10 mins late, I think that's ok. I can excuse you.
Why are some people perpetually late? Just what is their special relationship with the clock that they are just not able to work with it? I'm not sure. Let me tell you, some late people have mystical powers. They can be in 2 places at the same time! (if you're one of those earlybirds and can't relate to the behavior of late people, and hence don't understand what I'm saying, allow me to explain. Say u plan to meet a late friend in Pasir Ris. Beware, your friend has special powers. He/she can be near pasir ris and at his/her house in boon lay at the same time! How did he/she do that man?! Amazing!)
Oh, and another point. If a person is on time, he/she can also belong to the late people group. Wanna know how? Say you guys are supposed to meet at 3. At 2.59, you get a call from this person : "hey sorry, meet at 3.15." okie. 3.14, another call : hey sorry sorry, meet at 3.30!!" this thing continues and you eventually meet at 5. Technically, your friend will be on time. But here's the catch : he/she is120mins late! Watch out for people who keep postponing the meeting time, don't fall for the trap!
Okie really, why are some people late most of the time? If you're always late, It could be that
1) You absolutely have no heart to give up your sleep and what do you gain from being on time, anyway?!
Wad you need: a hard knock on the head. Especially if you're meeting someone.
2) You overestimate your abilities. You think you have supernatural powers. You think it takes you 10 seconds to freshen up, have your meal, get ready and leave your house. What's wrong with you?!
What U need: a very powerful stopwatch to time how long you take to bathe, eat, etc. In the hope that at least then you will realise it takes exponentially more than 10 seconds to do all of that!
3) You believe in being fashionably late. Say you're a lady going for a party. You know there are gonna be hot guys there. So you decide to go late. You know the grand entrance effect?
The moment you enter all the hot guys turn simultaneously to look at you and swoon over you. Wow, wad a great feeling!
What you need: a bit of cow sense. See, prob is you think you're thinking out of the box. But you're not. There are many other girls out there who probably think the same way and they're all ready to spoil your market. And, don't be so self-absorbed can! The whole world is not awaiting for your grand arrival. Honestly, there's nothing fashionable about being late. Allow me to call you a fashion disaster because you just got it wrong.
4) You take 15 minutes to brush your teeth, 1 hour to bathe, 1 hour to prepare your meal and another hour to eat. How on earth are you gonna be on time?
Wad you need: You need to speed up. Seriously. Don't argue that 'slow and steady wins the race'. First, slow is a clear understatement of your slowness. Second, you are not steady!! Third, if slow and steady person were to compete with a fast and steady person, I wonder who will win. Any ideas?? Hmm... Haha, trust me, won't kill to speed up a little!
With so much said, you must be thinking i'm against late people. Not really. Probably because I tend to have a high tolerance level. Second, if I know someone is late, I just take the necessary precautions (haha) so most of the time I'm ok with late people. But I'm human too, sometimes I too get annoyed. It's not a nice feeling I tell you. you wasted precious seconds of your life just waiting for your late friend and he/she get away with 'I'm sorry, I'm late'?! You can choose to make a fuss, if you had hope in your friend. Or you can resolve to give your friend a taste of their own medicine and always be later than them. Haha. Otherwise just don't care. Your friend's not gonna change and you can't turn back time anyway.
I won't pretend that I've never ever been late before. I have, on many occasions. I won't pretend I've never ever pressed the snooze button on my phone a countless times and then slept off and eventually woke up to realise i've overslept. I admit, it has happened to me too. The key thing here is, it happens but once in a blue moon. Plus, if I'm late, I'm not dangerously late. Probably 5-10 mins. On time is ideal. But 5, 10 mins late, I think that's ok. I can excuse you.
Why are some people perpetually late? Just what is their special relationship with the clock that they are just not able to work with it? I'm not sure. Let me tell you, some late people have mystical powers. They can be in 2 places at the same time! (if you're one of those earlybirds and can't relate to the behavior of late people, and hence don't understand what I'm saying, allow me to explain. Say u plan to meet a late friend in Pasir Ris. Beware, your friend has special powers. He/she can be near pasir ris and at his/her house in boon lay at the same time! How did he/she do that man?! Amazing!)
Oh, and another point. If a person is on time, he/she can also belong to the late people group. Wanna know how? Say you guys are supposed to meet at 3. At 2.59, you get a call from this person : "hey sorry, meet at 3.15." okie. 3.14, another call : hey sorry sorry, meet at 3.30!!" this thing continues and you eventually meet at 5. Technically, your friend will be on time. But here's the catch : he/she is120mins late! Watch out for people who keep postponing the meeting time, don't fall for the trap!
Okie really, why are some people late most of the time? If you're always late, It could be that
1) You absolutely have no heart to give up your sleep and what do you gain from being on time, anyway?!
Wad you need: a hard knock on the head. Especially if you're meeting someone.
2) You overestimate your abilities. You think you have supernatural powers. You think it takes you 10 seconds to freshen up, have your meal, get ready and leave your house. What's wrong with you?!
What U need: a very powerful stopwatch to time how long you take to bathe, eat, etc. In the hope that at least then you will realise it takes exponentially more than 10 seconds to do all of that!
3) You believe in being fashionably late. Say you're a lady going for a party. You know there are gonna be hot guys there. So you decide to go late. You know the grand entrance effect?
The moment you enter all the hot guys turn simultaneously to look at you and swoon over you. Wow, wad a great feeling!
What you need: a bit of cow sense. See, prob is you think you're thinking out of the box. But you're not. There are many other girls out there who probably think the same way and they're all ready to spoil your market. And, don't be so self-absorbed can! The whole world is not awaiting for your grand arrival. Honestly, there's nothing fashionable about being late. Allow me to call you a fashion disaster because you just got it wrong.
4) You take 15 minutes to brush your teeth, 1 hour to bathe, 1 hour to prepare your meal and another hour to eat. How on earth are you gonna be on time?
Wad you need: You need to speed up. Seriously. Don't argue that 'slow and steady wins the race'. First, slow is a clear understatement of your slowness. Second, you are not steady!! Third, if slow and steady person were to compete with a fast and steady person, I wonder who will win. Any ideas?? Hmm... Haha, trust me, won't kill to speed up a little!
With so much said, you must be thinking i'm against late people. Not really. Probably because I tend to have a high tolerance level. Second, if I know someone is late, I just take the necessary precautions (haha) so most of the time I'm ok with late people. But I'm human too, sometimes I too get annoyed. It's not a nice feeling I tell you. you wasted precious seconds of your life just waiting for your late friend and he/she get away with 'I'm sorry, I'm late'?! You can choose to make a fuss, if you had hope in your friend. Or you can resolve to give your friend a taste of their own medicine and always be later than them. Haha. Otherwise just don't care. Your friend's not gonna change and you can't turn back time anyway.
:)
I've always liked Vickram n shahid kapoor.. Joining the list next is... (drumrolls pls!!!) KARTI! U rock :)
Friday, February 19, 2010
Nijangal!
I'm a Nijangal fan - and i'm proud to be one!
It's rare to find me watching tv much less following any drama on any channel. That's why i'm so surprised that I actually follow Nijangal so religiously. I must have missed close to 20-30 episodes but ever sice I started watching, I haven stopped. It's addictive!
And I don't like it when people say it's just a drama. Well, as a matter of fact, it is. But if so may people are talking about it, then I guess it's safe to say it's sth more than just a drama. Reality perhaps. Reflective of the essence of the problems as we face it today. So nicely captured.
If you asked me, it'll make a great play. How nice would it be if the whole script was compiled into a play and if it was taught at the O/A level as one of the books for tamil lit? I rmb studying books like 'Aasiya jothi' and 'taliyaalangaanat talaivan'. i rmb not understanding what those titles meant too. They were great but woudn't it be better if we had read sth we cud relate to? Like njangal I mean. hehe.
Part of today's episode had to do with Hari and his illegal affair. A clear juxtaposition of Yamuna with Lalitha. Hari basically cheats on his wife who's too busy with her own family to indulge her husband with attention. Lalitha, Yamuna's best fren pounces on this chance and gives Hari all the attention he needs. Hari is then drawn to Lalitha.. Naturally, the heart yearns for some care and attention,huh?
Cheating is wrong, we all know that. But it's the other details that complicate it. Hari is not cheating for the sake of cheating, is he? His wife isn't giving him the time and attention that he needs. Therefore, he looks for it outside his marriage. Tadaa! Lalitha offers him an attractive package. Everything that he's missing out on. (i don't want to talk more about Lalitha caz she's jus plain evil) Let's come back to Yamuna. She hasn't exactly been doing a great job balancing both her family and her hubby. Shouldn't Hari be helping her out at times like this? He's yet to even tell Yamuna anything. Whereas Yamuna made an effort to talk to hari about her difficulties.
If everyone who's married ventures outside when the going gets tough, then what's the point of getting married in the first place? You're not even there when your partner needs you. Marriage is sacred okie.
I said earlier that cheating is wrong and that the details make it even harder to point fingers at just Hari or Yamuna or Lalitha and say one of them is in the wrong. But then again, cheating is wrong and whatever the details may be, that won't change! So yes, in my eyes, Hari IS wrong. He had other alternatives, like talking things out. If you've really lost it for Yamuna, then divorce her and marry Lalitha. That way you won't err you see.
What you see now is a preview of what I would be like 10-20-30-40 years down the road when i eventually decide to become a housewife and have some time for the tv. On top of worrying about my kids and their homework, the household chores, the cooking, and whether i'm giving my husband enough attention to make sure he doesn't cheat on me, i'd probably be worrying about the episode I watched the night before! I can so foresee that happening. If vasantham airs more of such quality dramas that is!
It's rare to find me watching tv much less following any drama on any channel. That's why i'm so surprised that I actually follow Nijangal so religiously. I must have missed close to 20-30 episodes but ever sice I started watching, I haven stopped. It's addictive!
And I don't like it when people say it's just a drama. Well, as a matter of fact, it is. But if so may people are talking about it, then I guess it's safe to say it's sth more than just a drama. Reality perhaps. Reflective of the essence of the problems as we face it today. So nicely captured.
If you asked me, it'll make a great play. How nice would it be if the whole script was compiled into a play and if it was taught at the O/A level as one of the books for tamil lit? I rmb studying books like 'Aasiya jothi' and 'taliyaalangaanat talaivan'. i rmb not understanding what those titles meant too. They were great but woudn't it be better if we had read sth we cud relate to? Like njangal I mean. hehe.
Part of today's episode had to do with Hari and his illegal affair. A clear juxtaposition of Yamuna with Lalitha. Hari basically cheats on his wife who's too busy with her own family to indulge her husband with attention. Lalitha, Yamuna's best fren pounces on this chance and gives Hari all the attention he needs. Hari is then drawn to Lalitha.. Naturally, the heart yearns for some care and attention,huh?
Cheating is wrong, we all know that. But it's the other details that complicate it. Hari is not cheating for the sake of cheating, is he? His wife isn't giving him the time and attention that he needs. Therefore, he looks for it outside his marriage. Tadaa! Lalitha offers him an attractive package. Everything that he's missing out on. (i don't want to talk more about Lalitha caz she's jus plain evil) Let's come back to Yamuna. She hasn't exactly been doing a great job balancing both her family and her hubby. Shouldn't Hari be helping her out at times like this? He's yet to even tell Yamuna anything. Whereas Yamuna made an effort to talk to hari about her difficulties.
If everyone who's married ventures outside when the going gets tough, then what's the point of getting married in the first place? You're not even there when your partner needs you. Marriage is sacred okie.
I said earlier that cheating is wrong and that the details make it even harder to point fingers at just Hari or Yamuna or Lalitha and say one of them is in the wrong. But then again, cheating is wrong and whatever the details may be, that won't change! So yes, in my eyes, Hari IS wrong. He had other alternatives, like talking things out. If you've really lost it for Yamuna, then divorce her and marry Lalitha. That way you won't err you see.
What you see now is a preview of what I would be like 10-20-30-40 years down the road when i eventually decide to become a housewife and have some time for the tv. On top of worrying about my kids and their homework, the household chores, the cooking, and whether i'm giving my husband enough attention to make sure he doesn't cheat on me, i'd probably be worrying about the episode I watched the night before! I can so foresee that happening. If vasantham airs more of such quality dramas that is!
Friday, January 8, 2010
There's a very thin line between harmless fun and bullying/embarrassing/insulting people. You cross the limit, the least you offer is an apology. You don't just brush it aside saying "you shouldn't take it soo seriously, it was all in the name of fun" If it happened to you, it won't be funny anymore, rest assured. Don't go overboard, there's a limit to everything!
Thursday, January 7, 2010
She Did Not Deserve to be Molested at Siloso Beach! (Really?)
I'm guessing you have a rough idea as to what i'm talking about. If you're not too sure, check this out : http://www.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Singapore/Story/A1Story20100104-189643.html
This is what I think. I wouldn't say she did not deserve to be molested. She was drunk + countdown party + bikini + 4 guys molesting her = her fault. Not being heartless, but she was vulnerable. And looks like she was alone. I mean you go to such parties, at the least u need to protect yourself! Can't say she's not at all responsible; She let the guys take advantage of her and that's exactly what they did.
But that's not to say I support the guys.. If the girl disgusts me, the guys disgust me even more. I can't believe the audacity of those guy.. they actually groped her on an elevated platform! not that it would have been less bad if they'd molested her somewhere private, but still, what were they thinking??!! And to top it off, they were foreign workers. Nice. Trying very hard to tarnish your already badly tarnished image in Singapore.
Oh, and you know what caught my attention? the part abt no one coming forward to help! What's happening? so many videos and photos of this incident up on the net and yet no one came forward to help? If i'm not wrong, pple don't go for such parties alone. So why didn't anyone help her? You's rather watch the show then try help that helpless girl? Maybe that's how we singaporeans work. But hey if i was with a group of friends, (preferable with some guys) i would've made sure we did something to help.
Still, i dun intend to join that "She Did Not Deserve to be Molested at Siloso Beach!"facebook group. In my eyes, The girl wasn't truly victimzed and they guys weren't totally to blame. It's sad it happened though. And i find the statement quite funny. If she did not deserve to be molested at Siloso beach, then Palawan Beack okie anot?hahah. Oh dear, the lame side of me kicking in. Have a great day everyone!
This is what I think. I wouldn't say she did not deserve to be molested. She was drunk + countdown party + bikini + 4 guys molesting her = her fault. Not being heartless, but she was vulnerable. And looks like she was alone. I mean you go to such parties, at the least u need to protect yourself! Can't say she's not at all responsible; She let the guys take advantage of her and that's exactly what they did.
But that's not to say I support the guys.. If the girl disgusts me, the guys disgust me even more. I can't believe the audacity of those guy.. they actually groped her on an elevated platform! not that it would have been less bad if they'd molested her somewhere private, but still, what were they thinking??!! And to top it off, they were foreign workers. Nice. Trying very hard to tarnish your already badly tarnished image in Singapore.
Oh, and you know what caught my attention? the part abt no one coming forward to help! What's happening? so many videos and photos of this incident up on the net and yet no one came forward to help? If i'm not wrong, pple don't go for such parties alone. So why didn't anyone help her? You's rather watch the show then try help that helpless girl? Maybe that's how we singaporeans work. But hey if i was with a group of friends, (preferable with some guys) i would've made sure we did something to help.
Still, i dun intend to join that "She Did Not Deserve to be Molested at Siloso Beach!"facebook group. In my eyes, The girl wasn't truly victimzed and they guys weren't totally to blame. It's sad it happened though. And i find the statement quite funny. If she did not deserve to be molested at Siloso beach, then Palawan Beack okie anot?hahah. Oh dear, the lame side of me kicking in. Have a great day everyone!
Thursday, December 24, 2009
All you guys are just the same.
I really can't believe this.. How could you do this to me Muzzy? After all these wonderful years, I can't believe you left me for that Bitch!! if i ever see her around, i will seriously murder her! you have no idea how much this has hurt me! i will never ever forgive you! i cried the whole of last night and the tears are still flowing!! You of all people.. I never expected you to leave me like that! i should have never trusted you! I hate guys!! all are just the same!!
Seriously, don't tell me you fell for that! Of course that was fake! hahah.
Okie now let's come to the point. I typed out that whole paragraph not just for fun. That's the reaction you are likely to (not always though) get when a girl just had a bad break up. No brainer right.. This is what usually follows the break up.
1. they are all reduced to the same cliche ==> "All guys are just the same." (This is the same guy they said they would love forever and ever and ever till their last breath just some time ago).
2. suddenly, you'd see them saying stuff like "I have many other stuff to concentrate on anw, i shouldn't be wasting my time on relationships now." (why did u commit urself in a r/s in the first place? bad loser.)
3. They attack love. What u may see is "true love is for fools", "true love does not exist" and the funniest of the lot, "love is a word i will never learn to pronounce" (If i'm not wrong this is from some song, one of my facebook fren had this as her nick. funny i tell you. You must be the only person proud of having a speech problem. Go for speech theraphy i say!)
I decide to do some kinda analysis on the 'all guys are the same" statement. Let's define the key terms first.
all :Being or representing the entire or total number, amount, or quantity
guy : Informal a man or youth
same : identical in kind, quantity
So going by the definition i stated above, i interpret that those who say "all guys are the same", are trying to say that.. all men, including youths, are identical in all aspects.
Let's analyze this statement then.
First, yes u are right,but only if you were damn literal about it. This is gonna sound lame but yes, all guys are the same because... they are all guys! bingo. It's the most basic level. Like when you say all human beings are the same because they need air, water and food to survive.
But besides that, this statement = total bullshit + lack of any evidence of any further thought on this topic.
Don't ask me why it bothers me. I am not sure. Really. but it does. it's like.. I take it damn personally esp when i sense the negative overtones. Of course u don't mean it in this sense ==> "all guys are the same! they all rock!!!!=))))" u mean it in the "all guys are just the same. they all suck!" sense.
now did u just insult all the great men in my life? Do you have any idea how great my dad is? do u have a rough idea how much love my uncle is capable of? or do you know how protective my bro is? And how abt muzzy and the very few but fantastic guy friends that i have? They are out of the ordinary; they are amazing. Now what do you say to that? give me an answer!
Assuming in today's context, we have full autonomy to decide on who we want to be friends with, only you are to blame if you get to know all the black sheeps .How is it fair u tell me. you drag the whole of the guy population into your damn problem and say all guys are the same just because your black sheep sucks. Isn't it your fault that you get to know all the wrong guys whose personalities/lifestyle/character doesn't match yours?
And really.. if you have a problem with a guy, then you have a prob with him and him alone. personal and public, 2 different areas. don't blur the lines. just because you think one guys sucks, dun conclude that all guys suck. Extrapolating is not always a wise thing to do.
So it's simple. Don't generalize. Don't. Because it usually isn't true. Just because one guy cheated on you or just because you had a couple of bad relationships, you can't conclude that all guys suck. It doesn't work that way. Plus if u make such statements, people might end up thinking you aren't capable of much thinking. Cause the truth is, all guys are just different!
I din deal with the "all girls are the same!" part of the story, caz i haven't come across any guy fren who's said such stuff. Well, it could also be that girls just rock but come on, that cannot be the case. It just means that i've done such a good job with carefully picking out my guy friends that none of them say such ridiculous stuff! I cannot say the same for the girls tho. Sad but true!
So let me conclude with this. All guys are just NOT the same. definitely not!
Seriously, don't tell me you fell for that! Of course that was fake! hahah.
Okie now let's come to the point. I typed out that whole paragraph not just for fun. That's the reaction you are likely to (not always though) get when a girl just had a bad break up. No brainer right.. This is what usually follows the break up.
1. they are all reduced to the same cliche ==> "All guys are just the same." (This is the same guy they said they would love forever and ever and ever till their last breath just some time ago).
2. suddenly, you'd see them saying stuff like "I have many other stuff to concentrate on anw, i shouldn't be wasting my time on relationships now." (why did u commit urself in a r/s in the first place? bad loser.)
3. They attack love. What u may see is "true love is for fools", "true love does not exist" and the funniest of the lot, "love is a word i will never learn to pronounce" (If i'm not wrong this is from some song, one of my facebook fren had this as her nick. funny i tell you. You must be the only person proud of having a speech problem. Go for speech theraphy i say!)
I decide to do some kinda analysis on the 'all guys are the same" statement. Let's define the key terms first.
all :Being or representing the entire or total number, amount, or quantity
guy : Informal a man or youth
same : identical in kind, quantity
So going by the definition i stated above, i interpret that those who say "all guys are the same", are trying to say that.. all men, including youths, are identical in all aspects.
Let's analyze this statement then.
First, yes u are right,but only if you were damn literal about it. This is gonna sound lame but yes, all guys are the same because... they are all guys! bingo. It's the most basic level. Like when you say all human beings are the same because they need air, water and food to survive.
But besides that, this statement = total bullshit + lack of any evidence of any further thought on this topic.
Don't ask me why it bothers me. I am not sure. Really. but it does. it's like.. I take it damn personally esp when i sense the negative overtones. Of course u don't mean it in this sense ==> "all guys are the same! they all rock!!!!=))))" u mean it in the "all guys are just the same. they all suck!" sense.
now did u just insult all the great men in my life? Do you have any idea how great my dad is? do u have a rough idea how much love my uncle is capable of? or do you know how protective my bro is? And how abt muzzy and the very few but fantastic guy friends that i have? They are out of the ordinary; they are amazing. Now what do you say to that? give me an answer!
Assuming in today's context, we have full autonomy to decide on who we want to be friends with, only you are to blame if you get to know all the black sheeps .How is it fair u tell me. you drag the whole of the guy population into your damn problem and say all guys are the same just because your black sheep sucks. Isn't it your fault that you get to know all the wrong guys whose personalities/lifestyle/character doesn't match yours?
And really.. if you have a problem with a guy, then you have a prob with him and him alone. personal and public, 2 different areas. don't blur the lines. just because you think one guys sucks, dun conclude that all guys suck. Extrapolating is not always a wise thing to do.
So it's simple. Don't generalize. Don't. Because it usually isn't true. Just because one guy cheated on you or just because you had a couple of bad relationships, you can't conclude that all guys suck. It doesn't work that way. Plus if u make such statements, people might end up thinking you aren't capable of much thinking. Cause the truth is, all guys are just different!
I din deal with the "all girls are the same!" part of the story, caz i haven't come across any guy fren who's said such stuff. Well, it could also be that girls just rock but come on, that cannot be the case. It just means that i've done such a good job with carefully picking out my guy friends that none of them say such ridiculous stuff! I cannot say the same for the girls tho. Sad but true!
So let me conclude with this. All guys are just NOT the same. definitely not!
Sunday, December 6, 2009
faceboook.
I think it's facebook.
I used to have alot to say about alot of things happening around me.
But facebook has made me think of the shortest possible way to sum up what i'm feeling. If i've no inspiration to blog, all I wanna say is "Naseemah Yacob is slowly losing the inspiration to blog". Not go into the 5Ws and 1H of why i've lost the inspiration to blog.
BUT I still enjoy writing long long longg paragraphs so if i've a burning zeal to blog about certain stuf, i still will. I just need time to get over the facebook syndrome for now.
I used to have alot to say about alot of things happening around me.
But facebook has made me think of the shortest possible way to sum up what i'm feeling. If i've no inspiration to blog, all I wanna say is "Naseemah Yacob is slowly losing the inspiration to blog". Not go into the 5Ws and 1H of why i've lost the inspiration to blog.
BUT I still enjoy writing long long longg paragraphs so if i've a burning zeal to blog about certain stuf, i still will. I just need time to get over the facebook syndrome for now.
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